Do you ever beat yourself up because you’re behind on the housework or the dishes are piling up in the sink? I know I’ve struggled over the years thinking my home had to be spotless and perfect…just in case someone dropped by. It can be a HUGE and unnecessary pressure that we put on ourselves. Our Registered Social Worker Katarina Schmidt (or Kat as we call her) tells you about the information she found to help her cope.
Do you ever feel like care tasks (domestic tasks) like laundry, doing the dishes, vacuuming, and hygiene tasks are just too much? I think there are times when we all feel like we are never quite caught up, or that our homes need to be spotless and picturesque. Frustration can appear when it seems like we are the only ones that struggle to keep up. I know I have felt this way many times.
I found myself searching for validation and ways to cope with this “too much” feeling and stumbled across KC Davis’s “Struggle Care”.
KC is a licensed professional therapist who found herself experiencing the same feelings. She wrote the book How to Keep House While Drowning and coined concept “struggle care”.
KC explains that a functioning home is more important than a magazine-ready home because a functioning home provides you with the space to go about your daily life and takes the pressure off of having the picture-perfect home.
KC shares the 6 pillars of struggle care:
- Care tasks are morally neutral
- Rest is a right, not a reward.
- You deserve kindness, regardless of your level of functioning.
- You can’t save the rainforest if you’re depressed.
- Shame is the enemy of functioning.
- Good enough is perfect.
These pillars of struggle care provide a different perspective on how to approach our care tasks while respecting our capacity and limits. KC focusses on tips and tricks to help us get through care tasks no matter where our physical, mental, or emotional states are at.
Click here for an in depth explanation of the pillars and more information from KC Davis or follow her on TikTok @domesticblisters.
Great article, Kat! Thanks.
Kat has her Masters degree and is a Registered Social Worker. She specializes in the following areas:
– Panic Attacks
– Self Confidence
– Self Esteem
– Self Compassion
– Complex Trauma
– Bipolar Disorder
– ADHD (Attention-Deficit / Hyperactivity Disorder)
– ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder)
– FASD (Fetal alcohol spectrum disorders)
– Mental Health Issues
– Communication Issues
– And More!
Kat offers Individual sessions for Adults.
Book your appointment with KAT here.
Cheers to less stress and more rest & self compassion.